Everybody seems to be very busy at this time of the year – although Christmas and New Year’s Eve are over. Everybody seems to be busy with new projects, plans and good resolutions.

When I asked some poeple how they spent New Year’s Eve they said: „Oh, it was awesome. Great party. Best evening ever…“ But they looked at me as if the rain poured over their face.

„Oh, I am glad to hear that. My evening was nice, maybe special for me but not amazing you know“, but I smiled.

„Oh, so bad?

„No, I said, not as great as your evening I guess… but ok for me“

Another sad look … „Oh…“

„Well, have a wonderful year! See you!“

What’s that? Is it not ‚hip‘ to be honest? Is it important to say that it was the best evening ever because then THIS year has to be the same automatically? Is it an attitude towards the ‚New Year‘? Christmas still seems to hang there like a cloud. The longing for perfection: the perfect present, the perfect tree and decoration, the perfect meal and the perfect relationships. Sometimes you find out that it isn’t perfect but ok. And then there is New Year’s Eve and when it’s over you get back to reality. In January.

Maybe this is an example for an inner dialogue. The new year has arrived and says: Hello, I think it’s time for some CHANGES!

– Ah, okay, I try my best… but… well… I don’t know. I don’t know where to start… there are so many things… Maybe I want to change so many things?!

– (The new year): Hey, come on, just do it! What about all your plans? Your dreams?

– Well, but I need this and that and … – you know… And I can’t do this because of …

– (The new year): Hey, what do you really want?

– I want everything that improves my life… I want to be happy!

– (The new year): Listen, you get on my nerves.

– And YOU put me under pressure!!!

Within the last days I saw many people standing next to me on the street, at the supermarket with their new sportsdresses (a Christmas present…). Some of those very sporty persons almost ran into my car. And probably they made the decision: Ok, let’s do more sports. It’s good for the body. And summer is coming soon!

(The new year): YEEES!

I don’t go to my fitness-class at the moment because there is no space. Too many people sweating around me in a tiny room. And you can hear: Argghhhh and Urghhhh. They don’t look like having fun. It’s just like fighting.

(The new year): Noooo…

– Silence –

But I made another decision: I put my old sports shoes on and started jogging again. I didn’t care whether I looked good in my sportswear. Just running, while taking these deep breaths. Finding my own rhythm again, watching the nature around me. Like meditation. After half an hour I came to my favourite place . And I met a photographer there. He came over, smiled at me and we started talking about nature. He took my hand and showed me some of his recent photos. He looked so friendly, really calm and just happy. And he flirted with me, too. I guess he was 20 years older than me but he looked at me like a young boy, bold and likable at the same time.
These are the moments in life when everything seems to be alright. Magic moments. I told him he should make money with his beautiful pictures. He said it’s just a hobby. But I motivated him. Standing next to him and talking to him felt comfortable.

When I started jogging again and finally ran back home I was thankful. I don’t know his name but I am sure we will meet again and talk. Suddenly I had so many ideas.

I think everybody should try the best to improve life and to fulfill the dreams you have. And honesty is the basic for a real friendship and a relationship between two people. You don’t have to hide behind this ‚great wall of perfection‘. It’s not real. You are real. Get closer. Maybe you have these special moments when you fall in love with your life again. Or when you support and motivate each other, when you compliment someone. These are the wonderful presents in life and really precious! You can find them every day – not only at Christmas time. And the moment when someone inpires you or brings a smile to your face is better than a glass of champagne among people with a bad mood on New Year’s Eve. Cheers!